The question is: Do I invest in a Matchmaker to help me with my love search? I have reached out to one. She's an old broad. Been doing this type of biz for a long time. She's been on TV and has a good rep. But here's the rub (I hate that phrase FYI), she can't guarantee she's going to find me my mate. I can invest a lot of dinero and come out of it with nothing. She said she's another venue. She recommends that I continue to do the Internet and network thang. I see what she's saying. The other thing I found HILARIOUS was that she has confirmed what I've been telling my friends for awhile: I'm old. She confirmed it. Guys don't want 40. Guys 60 may want 40 but guys 40 don't want 40. THIS is what I've been trying to explain to everyone. It's not as easy for me as it was finding a dude 4-5 years ago. 40 is a curse. 41 is even tougher and so on and so on and so on.....
Now, I don't want to get too down about this whole process but it actually was a relief for someone to confirm what I've been saying and thinking all along. The older we get the harder it is to meet someone. The pool that I'm swimming in now is smaller than a kiddie pool....it's like a puddle. So I need to act and act fast if I'm ever really going to find someone.
The other thing she told me is to have a goal. I should have the goal of marriage. When I told her that wasn't my main thing she told me to change that thinking and have it be. She was really insistent. Definitely like a pushy Jewish mother/grandmother. Oh...and she thinks Patty Stanger (Millionaire Matchmaker) is annoying.
She has had some good success fixing people up. She told me that no matter what happens that once I meet her I'll be on her mind. Even if she can't find me the one this year she'll keep me in mind in case she comes across someone for me in the future. "Once a client always a client". Not sure I believe any of this or if I'll even do it but this much I know: I like investing in myself. I don't live an extravagant lifestyle (my biggest purchase is travel) and the number one goal of my life is to find a man that I click with and be happy so why wouldn't I try this? It's just one other way (an expensive way true...) to try and fine The One. And I only need One. Right now I have NOptions and that doesn't sit too well with me. So....I will think about it and let you know if I decide to make the plunge. Right now I'm leaning towards 'yes' but tomorrow it could be a different story. If there are any takers before I take the plunge let me know NOW. Ha!
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Many professional matchmakers are definitely worth their salt, though the "marriage should be your goal" thing is more or less part of the industry. I think the implication is that you should be so pleased with the matchmaker's work -- you're hiring them to locate a soulmate, after all -- that you should want to seal the deal. A bit utopian, perhaps, but everyone I've known who's gotten hooked up via matchmaker has wound up married within a few years.
ReplyDeleteOne tip, some matchmakers don't charge women. I know for a fact that Richard Easton is one of these; one of my exec friends is currently using his superlative services. Might be worth looking into; his old-fashioned sensibilities seem to jibe with what you're seeking. Still; there's always much to be said for the jewish matri-archetype...
I just read this, Mark. Richard Easton? Yes. I will check him out. Thank you for much for the lead. Mucho appreciated. I've put the JMM on hold....at least for now...
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