I just had an interesting convo with a fella. He basically told me he doesn't know what he wants. Fair enough. I'd rather know that now than a year into it. But I guess my question is: Is there ANY guy out there that does know what he wants? Anyone out there (who's attractive and smart/witty) that wants to have a relationship?
He then started opening up a bit too much: I'd like someone....you know.....to come over at 9pm and make out with me (who SAYS this??). Not sleep with me....well, maybe foreplay....but you know....just someone to sleep over. I don't have it in me to date. I like routine. I work. I go to the gym. I have dinner. And then I watch TV. I want someone to fit into this routine but I don't think I want a serious relationship. I wouldn't greet a girl at the door with my pants down. Actually, I don't know what I want. I could change tomorrow.
SO.....again....this is what's out there ladies. Those of you who are in relationships.....jealous? I didn't think so.
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Monday, September 19, 2011
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Where Have All The Good Men Gone?
Last night I was on a real high from a performance that I did. I did a reading of a story I wrote (yes, it was dating themed, hello?!). And then I came home, did some work and realized......I have no dating prospects. The high was gone. I seriously feel the well is dry. I still get contacted by guys but they're all lame. Seriously lame like guys either only looking for a good time, or ones that write "Hi" and even if I did respond with a "Hi, yourself" I'd never hear from them again. (And is "hi" all you men have in your arsenal????? Obviously, the answer is "yes")
Have I dated my way through Chicago????? Do I need to relocate to find fresh faces? MAYBE. I'm considering it.
The last guy I met (it was only a couple weeks ago but it seems like a lifetime) is fodder for a written/performed story and not necessarily for The DOG. It deserves a bigger audience.
So, instead of concentrating on my lack of a love life I will focus on ME (which is cliche, but true) and how I can get my stories out to the masses. After last night I feel that people can relate to my dating woes. I'd like to be the older Carrie Bradshaw for the world. I have the big flowers to wear on my lapel and the stories.
I do know a lot about dating as I've been doing it for a LONG time. But I know nothing about men. Go figure.
In any case, I have the best friends and family (sis and cousin) ever and in that respect I am a lucky, lucky girl.
Date Me!
Have I dated my way through Chicago????? Do I need to relocate to find fresh faces? MAYBE. I'm considering it.
The last guy I met (it was only a couple weeks ago but it seems like a lifetime) is fodder for a written/performed story and not necessarily for The DOG. It deserves a bigger audience.
So, instead of concentrating on my lack of a love life I will focus on ME (which is cliche, but true) and how I can get my stories out to the masses. After last night I feel that people can relate to my dating woes. I'd like to be the older Carrie Bradshaw for the world. I have the big flowers to wear on my lapel and the stories.
I do know a lot about dating as I've been doing it for a LONG time. But I know nothing about men. Go figure.
In any case, I have the best friends and family (sis and cousin) ever and in that respect I am a lucky, lucky girl.
Date Me!
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Internet Dating 101
Here are a few things that guys do on the dating sites that really irk me:
1) Post pictures of scenery. WHO CARES?
2) Post pictures that are fuzzy. You obviously have something to hide.
3) Post 1 pic of multiple people/a group shot/two guys (obviously the more handsome fella is not you) and don't specify which one you are. Come on!
4) Don't fill out a profile or list minimal info but mentions: Ask me anything you want. I'm an open book. Then they also write that no one contacts them. MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO INFORMATION ABOUT YOURSELF WRITTEN IN YOUR PROFILE.
5) Guys who im me but never want to send me a proper email. They're usually really slow typers and obviously have no intention to meet me or they'd follow up. They never do.
6) Guys that say they want to meet me without disclosing their name. Wouldn't one want to know this up front?
7) Guys that only post 1 picture of themselves and get angry if you ask to see another picture. Again.....you have something to hide if you don't post at least 2 visible pictures of yourself. Not one profile shot and one of you hanggliding from a far away distance.
8) Guys that send me an email and I respond and never hear back from them. Could I have really written something that bad that would warrant nary a reply?
9) Guys that write, "Hi" and that's it. Um......do you really think that deserves a response?
10) Guys that write in an im, "How are you?" Isn't the response always going to be, "Good. How are you?" And then it's usually, "Good. What are you up to?" WRITING TO YOU, FELLA. Ugh. Gets me quite irritated. Bring SOMETHING to the table. It's the same old same old. Not a lot of substance out there.
That is all.
Date Me!
1) Post pictures of scenery. WHO CARES?
2) Post pictures that are fuzzy. You obviously have something to hide.
3) Post 1 pic of multiple people/a group shot/two guys (obviously the more handsome fella is not you) and don't specify which one you are. Come on!
4) Don't fill out a profile or list minimal info but mentions: Ask me anything you want. I'm an open book. Then they also write that no one contacts them. MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO INFORMATION ABOUT YOURSELF WRITTEN IN YOUR PROFILE.
5) Guys who im me but never want to send me a proper email. They're usually really slow typers and obviously have no intention to meet me or they'd follow up. They never do.
6) Guys that say they want to meet me without disclosing their name. Wouldn't one want to know this up front?
7) Guys that only post 1 picture of themselves and get angry if you ask to see another picture. Again.....you have something to hide if you don't post at least 2 visible pictures of yourself. Not one profile shot and one of you hanggliding from a far away distance.
8) Guys that send me an email and I respond and never hear back from them. Could I have really written something that bad that would warrant nary a reply?
9) Guys that write, "Hi" and that's it. Um......do you really think that deserves a response?
10) Guys that write in an im, "How are you?" Isn't the response always going to be, "Good. How are you?" And then it's usually, "Good. What are you up to?" WRITING TO YOU, FELLA. Ugh. Gets me quite irritated. Bring SOMETHING to the table. It's the same old same old. Not a lot of substance out there.
That is all.
Date Me!
Monday, August 29, 2011
Does It Get Any Better Than This? No.
A guy on one of the dating sites asked me to help him find a job (no mention of wanting to date me AT ALL) and being the kind person that I am, gave him some advice and lo and behold here was his response. I can not make this sh*t up:
I went to LinkedIn.
There are mostly women on that site. Women and gay men are "power users" of social media sites and being a man I feel out of place and uncomfortable. I am just not the "metrosexual trendy type" who uses these social media sites to find employment.
I do not want to have a 30-something year old former sorority sister with an MBA to recruit me.
I'm a 43 year old man. It seems like women hold all the the careers in hotels and PR in 2011.
Thanks anyway.
You've got to be F'ing kidding me, right? THIS is what is out there ladies......grab it while the going's good. Oy!
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I went to LinkedIn.
There are mostly women on that site. Women and gay men are "power users" of social media sites and being a man I feel out of place and uncomfortable. I am just not the "metrosexual trendy type" who uses these social media sites to find employment.
I do not want to have a 30-something year old former sorority sister with an MBA to recruit me.
I'm a 43 year old man. It seems like women hold all the the careers in hotels and PR in 2011.
Thanks anyway.
You've got to be F'ing kidding me, right? THIS is what is out there ladies......grab it while the going's good. Oy!
Date Me!
Where Do I Begin?
Over the weekend I received these nuggets from potential suitors:
Cooljackie: I realy do not have any hobbies I am dedicated to. But I enjoy being out side in good wether. And I am open to doing a veriety of things. I am perty easy going, and get along with people well.
WHERE DO I SIGN UP?????
Makes you want to run right out and date him, huh?
Then today I got this one from MrYadidda: Do you date black men?
Oh....and another one to mention from Pantywaste (REALLY? THIS is your profile name????): Hi
OH OH and then "The Voice" who wants to be friends even though I told him I didn't feel a connection starts trying to tell me which pictures of mine are good and which are bad. Um....who asked you?! He also said I should use the "professional tester" on one of the sites as they work (they tell you what pictures work and which are not good). They work?? Then why are you still single? That's mean. I take it back. I do. I'm just so friggin frustrated. ARRGGGHHHH!
I HATE INTERNET DATING! I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT!!!!!!!!
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Cooljackie: I realy do not have any hobbies I am dedicated to. But I enjoy being out side in good wether. And I am open to doing a veriety of things. I am perty easy going, and get along with people well.
WHERE DO I SIGN UP?????
Makes you want to run right out and date him, huh?
Then today I got this one from MrYadidda: Do you date black men?
Oh....and another one to mention from Pantywaste (REALLY? THIS is your profile name????): Hi
OH OH and then "The Voice" who wants to be friends even though I told him I didn't feel a connection starts trying to tell me which pictures of mine are good and which are bad. Um....who asked you?! He also said I should use the "professional tester" on one of the sites as they work (they tell you what pictures work and which are not good). They work?? Then why are you still single? That's mean. I take it back. I do. I'm just so friggin frustrated. ARRGGGHHHH!
I HATE INTERNET DATING! I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT!!!!!!!!
Date Me!
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
One More Thing Because I Feel Like I'm On A Roll.....
........When guys say, "My loss, I'm sure" they don't mean this at all. They are THRILLED to be rid of you. If they really felt you'd be a loss they would be with you.
OK......now I am going to get off my horse. My high one.
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OK......now I am going to get off my horse. My high one.
Date Me!
Laying It On The Line
I'm honestly sick and tired. Ugh! ANOTHER dude goes MIA on me. But this one I confronted.
How do you go out with someone a couple times and get a text that reads: "Guess what? I like you." And barely hear from them again????? HOW!???
Well....I wanted some answers and so I asked. The answer seemed mamsy pamsy but I *think* honest. I won't go into the sitch as it's his business but I guess the moral of this tale is that from now on I do want to know the truth. For so long I have been the girl that didn't want to know....shelter me from the truth because the truth hurts. Well....not anymore. With this dating crap I need to know. And now I do.
Yes, the truth hurts but so does the ambiguity. So now I know. And now I hate him.
Date Me!
PS: For all the dudes that do douchey things to girls: Don't tell them how fabulous they are while you're being a douche. We don't need to be patronized. We get it. You're not into us. Don't make it out to be that we're all that if you can't muster up the balls to tell us what's really going on. OK.....I think I am now finished.
How do you go out with someone a couple times and get a text that reads: "Guess what? I like you." And barely hear from them again????? HOW!???
Well....I wanted some answers and so I asked. The answer seemed mamsy pamsy but I *think* honest. I won't go into the sitch as it's his business but I guess the moral of this tale is that from now on I do want to know the truth. For so long I have been the girl that didn't want to know....shelter me from the truth because the truth hurts. Well....not anymore. With this dating crap I need to know. And now I do.
Yes, the truth hurts but so does the ambiguity. So now I know. And now I hate him.
Date Me!
PS: For all the dudes that do douchey things to girls: Don't tell them how fabulous they are while you're being a douche. We don't need to be patronized. We get it. You're not into us. Don't make it out to be that we're all that if you can't muster up the balls to tell us what's really going on. OK.....I think I am now finished.
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