I went out with a fella the other night (it was actually a second date) and he made mention to the fact that he is looking for a "cute girl - she doesn't have to be beautiful - just cute"......and then he reiterated it, "You know.....like I said....I'm looking for cute - not gorgeous". Quite obviously he was referring to me. Should I be offended? I wasn't at the time but the more time that goes by I am kind of hurt. I know I'm no Elizabeth Hurley (guys still dig her, right?.....um.....maybe Megan Fox....or Penelope Cruz?) but do I have to be reminded of this? I really don't think he set out to hurt me. And I too like a "cute" guy. I love the boyish look....but I wouldn't tell the person I'm sitting across from at dinner *twice* that I am only interested in cute as opposed to devilishly handsome (however, if Rob Lowe walked into my life today I would be ever so pleased.....people, I have a thing...).
So....this is my dilemma. I enjoy this guy's company quite a bit but I don't want to be anyone's second banana. Actually, most guys that I've dated have never called me "beautiful" or "pretty" so I don't know why this is bothering me so much. And it's no pity party....I know what I look like - it is what it is (a phrase that I used on my date and he in turn told me that he really dislikes the phrase so I will use it in my DOG as a form of protest) but I can still be affected, right?
Date Me!
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
He sounds cute.
ReplyDeleteDo you need clarification on what he means by cute? In all fairness, I have noticed that really handsome men tend to have less personalities because they didn't have to try so hard, so maybe he is trying to tell you that he's been with super hot girls and they weren't interesting, or fun, or lovable like you. So that is one take on it. The other is that you are his second banana. Two dates in, I think you should ask what he meant by that. It might give you an opportunity to tell him what you are looking for too.
ReplyDelete