This morning I was walking my dog and around the corner a gentleman approached. From a distance he seemed handsome....longish hair, tan and a bit rugged. I looked up and kind of gave him my "sparkle eyes". As he approached I got a good look: skin was really dark like he spent a lot of time outside....you know...like shoe leather rough...and the hair was tangled.....he also had a dirty beige coat and a look about him that screamed "I may kill you". I *think* he was homeless.....or down on his luck. But he was kinda cute. I'm telling you...my standards are LOW these days. L-O-W. If he would have asked, I may have bought him a coffee.
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Sunday, January 30, 2011
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Ad Hominem
A guy contacts me and it says he's 44. He tells me he's really 48. When I inquire as to why he didn't list his true age in his profile and telling him that I have a friend that met someone that was 8 yrs older than what he was and subsequently wasn't truthful about a few other things (I also inquired as to if his pictures are recent) he tells me he thinks I'm rude and doesn't want to continue having a conversation with me. Huh. Was I stepping over the line? Should I have just accepted that he's older than what he states and not question it? I think he has something to hide and I called him out....but maybe I'm TOO suspicious?
He also taught me a new word: ad hominem - An ad hominem (Latin: "to the man"), also known as argumentum ad hominem, is an attempt to link the validity of a premise to a characteristic or belief of the person advocating the premise.[1] The ad hominem is a classic logical fallacy,[2] but it is not always fallacious; in some instances, questions of personal conduct, character, motives, etc., are legitimate and relevant to the issue.[3]
But he wrote "a ad hominem" as opposed to "an ad hominem" but I knew bringing that up would really be too much. See....I'm not that bad. Am I???? Don't answer that.
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He also taught me a new word: ad hominem - An ad hominem (Latin: "to the man"), also known as argumentum ad hominem, is an attempt to link the validity of a premise to a characteristic or belief of the person advocating the premise.[1] The ad hominem is a classic logical fallacy,[2] but it is not always fallacious; in some instances, questions of personal conduct, character, motives, etc., are legitimate and relevant to the issue.[3]
But he wrote "a ad hominem" as opposed to "an ad hominem" but I knew bringing that up would really be too much. See....I'm not that bad. Am I???? Don't answer that.
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Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Hello Fathers
I think I'd be a great step-mom. Problem is, I rarely get contacted by guys with kids. Should I list in my actual profile the fact that I'm open to divorced fellas with rug rats (and I'd totally use this exact wording...I mean, why not, right?)? I actually would like a guy who has younger children but if he had teenagers I think I'd be OK....I think.
So...I'm putting it out there in the universe.....dudes with kids are A-OK with me. Bring it!
Ooh...also, more and more I feel that professional guys are the way to go for me. I used to think that I'd be OK with ANYONE....a tradesman.....but the more I think about it I do believe that I'm better with a white collar. But what the Hell do I know??
Boys Boys Boys Boys Boys.....
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So...I'm putting it out there in the universe.....dudes with kids are A-OK with me. Bring it!
Ooh...also, more and more I feel that professional guys are the way to go for me. I used to think that I'd be OK with ANYONE....a tradesman.....but the more I think about it I do believe that I'm better with a white collar. But what the Hell do I know??
Boys Boys Boys Boys Boys.....
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Thursday, January 20, 2011
Right On
Last night I had one of those painful, roll my eyes, I can't wait for this conversation to end calls.
A dude I had given my number to gave me a "shout out" and the convo went something like this:
Dude: Hi. I'm sorry that I can't really talk but I didn't want you to think that I'm an ass so I'm calling but I'm on my way to the gym but I just don't have a lot of time.
Me: That's OK. You can call me over the weekend or another time if that works better.
Dude: Right on. It's just that I've been bombarded by girls recently. I just joined on Saturday and I feel obligated to talk to everyone. I'm not one of those post a shirtless pic kind of guys. I'm educated and a good person. Don't get me wrong. I'm not a boyscout but I'm also not an ass.
Me: Um....you contacted me.
Dude: Right on. Let me ask you a question....there's this woman who's 10 yrs older than me and has a kid. I told her that she can come to my open mic night and within one hour she has a sitter. Well, I decide not to go because I'm so tired. Do you think I owe her anything?
Me: Um...well, a phone call would be nice to let her know that you aren't going to make it but other than that it's her choice to book a babysitter. It's probably a disappointment to her but you guys haven't met so it's not like you owe her anything. Maybe she can plan a night out with her friends?
Dude: Right on. It's just that all these women keep writing to me. I really just want to get into my jacuzzi and have a soak because it's too much.
Me: So, listen....drive safe and when you have some time give me a call.....
Dude. Right on. Ciao.
Phone number will be screened from here on out.
Dating. Is. Tough. Online Dating. Is. Really. Tough.
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A dude I had given my number to gave me a "shout out" and the convo went something like this:
Dude: Hi. I'm sorry that I can't really talk but I didn't want you to think that I'm an ass so I'm calling but I'm on my way to the gym but I just don't have a lot of time.
Me: That's OK. You can call me over the weekend or another time if that works better.
Dude: Right on. It's just that I've been bombarded by girls recently. I just joined on Saturday and I feel obligated to talk to everyone. I'm not one of those post a shirtless pic kind of guys. I'm educated and a good person. Don't get me wrong. I'm not a boyscout but I'm also not an ass.
Me: Um....you contacted me.
Dude: Right on. Let me ask you a question....there's this woman who's 10 yrs older than me and has a kid. I told her that she can come to my open mic night and within one hour she has a sitter. Well, I decide not to go because I'm so tired. Do you think I owe her anything?
Me: Um...well, a phone call would be nice to let her know that you aren't going to make it but other than that it's her choice to book a babysitter. It's probably a disappointment to her but you guys haven't met so it's not like you owe her anything. Maybe she can plan a night out with her friends?
Dude: Right on. It's just that all these women keep writing to me. I really just want to get into my jacuzzi and have a soak because it's too much.
Me: So, listen....drive safe and when you have some time give me a call.....
Dude. Right on. Ciao.
Phone number will be screened from here on out.
Dating. Is. Tough. Online Dating. Is. Really. Tough.
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Tuesday, January 18, 2011
I See You
I have a home date coming up. Not mine but his. So would that technically be considered an away game? In any case....I'm nervous. I think this is a big step. Is it make or break? Maybe.
When dating someone new, is seeing them once a week good or bad? I'm used to spending a lot of time with my paramour but as I've gotten older I haven't sweated more sporadic get togethers. Is this bad? Does this mean I don't like him? I fear that we can't build the kind of momentum that we need by only seeing each other once in awhile. But so far it hasn't hindered my feelings....well, maybe it has as I still haven't made up my mind if he's a keeper....and I'm going to venture a guess that he feels the same way. When do you turn the switch to see each other more often?
So....Saturday is going to be a big day for us. I can feel it.
Dating is scary. Not fun. This much I know is true.
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When dating someone new, is seeing them once a week good or bad? I'm used to spending a lot of time with my paramour but as I've gotten older I haven't sweated more sporadic get togethers. Is this bad? Does this mean I don't like him? I fear that we can't build the kind of momentum that we need by only seeing each other once in awhile. But so far it hasn't hindered my feelings....well, maybe it has as I still haven't made up my mind if he's a keeper....and I'm going to venture a guess that he feels the same way. When do you turn the switch to see each other more often?
So....Saturday is going to be a big day for us. I can feel it.
Dating is scary. Not fun. This much I know is true.
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Sunday, January 16, 2011
Hot Or Not
Have you ever been out with someone that you were confused by? Confused in the way that you weren't sure how attractive they are? A profile can really make or break a face. Turn to the left and you're pretty good looking but when you turn right it's a whole other story. I believe Seinfeld did an episode on this. I feel like I might be living a Seinfeld episode. Head on we are all good but if I catch you looking to the right then we might have a situation. I say, let's just keep all our interaction looking at each other straight on. Then we may have a shot.
It's a wonder I'm even allowed to meet potential suitors to date.
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It's a wonder I'm even allowed to meet potential suitors to date.
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Friday, January 7, 2011
There Is Nothing Like A Dame
You know what I enjoyed tonight? The ladies. Not like I "enjoyed" the ladies but I had some great conversations with some awesome women and it really made me happy. Good gal pals will listen, commiserate, offer advice and call you on your sh*t. Yes, Deanna....I am "jaded" but I'm HONESTLY trying not to be. In a way it gave me hope. Hope that I will find my guy. I know he's out there. I may have already met him. You never know. Tonight made up for the below email I got last night from a class act:
lol omg, if there were less superfical ppl like you, this world would be such a better place... and word of advice... lose some weight, then you wont get guys just looking to get laid.
WTF???!!!! At first I thought he was complimenting me on not being superficial (or superFICAL as he likes to spell it). But then he made mention of my weight (What a special guy, huh?!) so I was thrown. Complimentor or A-Hole?......Complimentor or A-Hole?.....Hmmmmm.....A-HOLE. Yes. I've made up my mind. He's an ASS............and I'm meeting him for a drink on Tuesday. I KID!!!! I KIDD!!!
In any case, guys like this make me jaded....but then a night like tonight makes me a little less....a teensy eensy bit less but less nonetheless.
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lol omg, if there were less superfical ppl like you, this world would be such a better place... and word of advice... lose some weight, then you wont get guys just looking to get laid.
WTF???!!!! At first I thought he was complimenting me on not being superficial (or superFICAL as he likes to spell it). But then he made mention of my weight (What a special guy, huh?!) so I was thrown. Complimentor or A-Hole?......Complimentor or A-Hole?.....Hmmmmm.....A-HOLE. Yes. I've made up my mind. He's an ASS............and I'm meeting him for a drink on Tuesday. I KID!!!! I KIDD!!!
In any case, guys like this make me jaded....but then a night like tonight makes me a little less....a teensy eensy bit less but less nonetheless.
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Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Young Ladies Listen Up
Please let this DOG be a warning to all you young ladies out there.....
DO NOT STAY WITH A GUY IF HE TELLS YOU HE DOES NOT SEE/MIGHT NOT SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU!
Let me reiterate: DO NOT STAY! He won't change his mind.....He won't marry you and/or see a future with you "eventually". He is just not that into you. Don't waste years of your lives on guys like this like I did. I'm 41 and SINGLE.
I have been running into a lot of dames (like myself) lately that are "women of a certain age" and either divorced or never married. Why? Because they chose the wrong guy. My life has been a huge learning experience. I'm finally realizing that I deserve more (as do all of you....all of you 2-3 readers out there). When I fall in love I fall hard....but my mistake has been blindness...and deafness. I see/saw the warning signs. I heard the declarations of "yeah....you're nice" when I proclaimed love. The avoidance when trying to discuss the future. The self proclaimed "I like being alone and will probably be a nomad for the rest of my life." And you know what happens to these guys? As soon as they break up with you they find someone else and form a lasting bond with them leaving you to feel sorry for yourself. Well....I claim ENOUGH! I'm here to teach the next generation of women that you deserve more! Stop only looking for a guy who's easy on the eyes and an unemotional imbecile and start looking for depth.....honesty, kindness.....someone that ADORES you and will always put you first. Heed my warning as I can't reiterate this enough.
OK....just had to get this off my chest.
Now....back to your regularly scheduled program.
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DO NOT STAY WITH A GUY IF HE TELLS YOU HE DOES NOT SEE/MIGHT NOT SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU!
Let me reiterate: DO NOT STAY! He won't change his mind.....He won't marry you and/or see a future with you "eventually". He is just not that into you. Don't waste years of your lives on guys like this like I did. I'm 41 and SINGLE.
I have been running into a lot of dames (like myself) lately that are "women of a certain age" and either divorced or never married. Why? Because they chose the wrong guy. My life has been a huge learning experience. I'm finally realizing that I deserve more (as do all of you....all of you 2-3 readers out there). When I fall in love I fall hard....but my mistake has been blindness...and deafness. I see/saw the warning signs. I heard the declarations of "yeah....you're nice" when I proclaimed love. The avoidance when trying to discuss the future. The self proclaimed "I like being alone and will probably be a nomad for the rest of my life." And you know what happens to these guys? As soon as they break up with you they find someone else and form a lasting bond with them leaving you to feel sorry for yourself. Well....I claim ENOUGH! I'm here to teach the next generation of women that you deserve more! Stop only looking for a guy who's easy on the eyes and an unemotional imbecile and start looking for depth.....honesty, kindness.....someone that ADORES you and will always put you first. Heed my warning as I can't reiterate this enough.
OK....just had to get this off my chest.
Now....back to your regularly scheduled program.
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It's Not The Size Of The Boat It's The Motion Of The Ocean
Sometimes I take a quick moment to check my online dating sites while working if I see I received a message(s). I usually only stay on for a minute (at most) and then log right off. During this time I more than likely get an instant message from some whack job saying "hi" to me.
Today's doozy went something like this.
Idiot: Hi. Did you get my message?
Me: Um no. I'm only checking in for a minute as I'm at work and can't IM.
Idiot: Oh, because I wanted to know if you'd consider a friend with benefits situation. (Oh, we got a situation alright)
Me: Uh no. But thanks for asking.
Idiot: Really? Not even an attractive 26 year old hung guy like myself
Me: Ha! No thank you but all the best to you. (I'm sure he thought the "hung" tidbit would really perk my interest and I'm not gonna lie....for a second it did)
Anyway.....still seeing one fella that is of quite a bit of interest to me so as of this writing I'm happy. Tomorrow? Could be a whole other story.
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Today's doozy went something like this.
Idiot: Hi. Did you get my message?
Me: Um no. I'm only checking in for a minute as I'm at work and can't IM.
Idiot: Oh, because I wanted to know if you'd consider a friend with benefits situation. (Oh, we got a situation alright)
Me: Uh no. But thanks for asking.
Idiot: Really? Not even an attractive 26 year old hung guy like myself
Me: Ha! No thank you but all the best to you. (I'm sure he thought the "hung" tidbit would really perk my interest and I'm not gonna lie....for a second it did)
Anyway.....still seeing one fella that is of quite a bit of interest to me so as of this writing I'm happy. Tomorrow? Could be a whole other story.
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Sunday, January 2, 2011
A New Year Of Contradictions
So it's 2011. I have a good feeling about this year. (I actually don't but I thought I'd try and fake positivity)
I'm cleaning house and also trying to build on potential possibilities.
Irons are in the fire and I hope to have some updates soon.
New decade = new attitude (Actually it's the same piss poor attitude but again....I'm a faker)
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I'm cleaning house and also trying to build on potential possibilities.
Irons are in the fire and I hope to have some updates soon.
New decade = new attitude (Actually it's the same piss poor attitude but again....I'm a faker)
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