Haven't had a whole heck of a lot of time to date (or write the DOG for that matter) due to the influx of work. But as I set forth on my vacation I'm looking upon my return as the start of something new. It's been a lot of disappointment with the fellas: getting my hopes up only to have them squashed the next day. I know this sounds bleak but honestly that's how it's been. I keep replaying my motto in my head: It only takes one. It only takes one. It only takes one. I'm so ready for a relationship: falling in love and committing myself to someone else. Dating is daunting to me. I really don't like it and haven't had a ton of fun in the process. I'm a one man girl. This has been a growing and strengthening (of my self will) experience for me. I'm just going to remain hopeful that my man is out there. The one I'm supposed to be with and make happy (and vice versa). I look forward to this happening. I just wish it would happen sooner rather than later but I've got patience...some patience.
So as I set sail (well, really set flight) I bid you all adieu. I wish you all happiness in your relationships and look forward to starting mine.....SOON, damn it!
DATE ME!
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Saturday, July 24, 2010
The Analyzer
Sorry it's taken me so long to write a post (I'm sure my loyal 5-6 readers have been awaiting this post with baited breath) but I have been in a work haze! I finally have a moment to gather some thoughts and write about something that may be a problem for me...The Analyzer.
I am set to embark on another date and while I have hope that it's going to go well, I also know that things bug me and it probably won't be all that great. (I'm such an optimist)
This is the second time I have come up with a list of restaurants for my impending fella to choose from and like the last time, I got a full on analyzed email back as to why he's choosing the place that we'll be going to. Why?! Why do I need to know why this restaurant may be too heavy while this one too messy? Just tell me which FRIGGIN restaurant you want to meet me at come 8pm. I don't need to know details. Also, if my choices are not to your liking THEN COME UP WITH YOUR OWN! I'm kind of tired of taking the reigns. I've had to because some of the dudes that I've come across seem like Backseat Bobs (not to be confused with the Backstreet Boys) but these are the guys that are interested in me so I either go with it or don't go out.
My life right now is not all that rosy. With work being so crazy and not having the personal life in order, everything that is bad is magnetized. Luckily, I'm getting out of Dodge for a week and this just may be the trick to rejuvenating myself and my attitude. I feel like these past 4 months have been a real struggle for me but I'm trying to stay positive and hope that the last part of 2010 will be better than the first part. I'm TRYING to believe this. TRYING, TRYING, TRYING.
Life is a funny dame, I tell you.
DATE ME!
I am set to embark on another date and while I have hope that it's going to go well, I also know that things bug me and it probably won't be all that great. (I'm such an optimist)
This is the second time I have come up with a list of restaurants for my impending fella to choose from and like the last time, I got a full on analyzed email back as to why he's choosing the place that we'll be going to. Why?! Why do I need to know why this restaurant may be too heavy while this one too messy? Just tell me which FRIGGIN restaurant you want to meet me at come 8pm. I don't need to know details. Also, if my choices are not to your liking THEN COME UP WITH YOUR OWN! I'm kind of tired of taking the reigns. I've had to because some of the dudes that I've come across seem like Backseat Bobs (not to be confused with the Backstreet Boys) but these are the guys that are interested in me so I either go with it or don't go out.
My life right now is not all that rosy. With work being so crazy and not having the personal life in order, everything that is bad is magnetized. Luckily, I'm getting out of Dodge for a week and this just may be the trick to rejuvenating myself and my attitude. I feel like these past 4 months have been a real struggle for me but I'm trying to stay positive and hope that the last part of 2010 will be better than the first part. I'm TRYING to believe this. TRYING, TRYING, TRYING.
Life is a funny dame, I tell you.
DATE ME!
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Another Gem
From the same fabulous fella that brought us this gem:
Very pretty pics.
Different looks but when you doll yourself up and those cheekbones come out, watch out!
Has struck again with this accolade:
Pretty.
And I DO LOVE the lipstick! So many women go without.
I'm giddy with excitement as I truly think he could be the one.
DATE ME!
Very pretty pics.
Different looks but when you doll yourself up and those cheekbones come out, watch out!
Has struck again with this accolade:
Pretty.
And I DO LOVE the lipstick! So many women go without.
I'm giddy with excitement as I truly think he could be the one.
DATE ME!
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Save The Drama For Yo Mama!
A trend I've been noticing on the Internet dating sites is men looking for women with "no drama". I'm telling you....6 out of 10 (well, I kind of did my own mock research and the American Dental Association may have different figures) have written this phrase. What the heck does this mean?! I've thought and thought about it and as I read this request over and over I think they mean that they want an easy breezy relationship with a "yes girl" and don't want to have to work at the relationship at all. WTF?! Is this even possible?
I think that this is why a lot of men stay single. They're afraid of any sort of rumble in the jungle. I've had friends of mine whose boyfriends had broken up with them in the past due to confrontation only to get right back together with them as, to me, this is an unrealistic request. Now, if a dame comes to the table with a gun toting ex who's out to kill the new man in her life then yes...that would be construed as "drama". But if a guy isn't looking for a girl to have an opinion on things or doesn't stand up for herself in the relationship then that's just wrong.
I came from my mama and the Goldmans are all about the drama. In reality, I've mellowed over the years and compromise (especially in a boyfriend relationship) has become a pseudo middle name of mine but there are definitely things I won't bend on and if this is considered drama then I may be single for a long time. Ugh!
If tons of these guys need to write it in their dating profile headers or you read it in the very first few sentences of their profile then I guess there is a lady drama problem in America. Who knew? And will the Chase Community Giving program also include this non for profit?
DATE ME!
I think that this is why a lot of men stay single. They're afraid of any sort of rumble in the jungle. I've had friends of mine whose boyfriends had broken up with them in the past due to confrontation only to get right back together with them as, to me, this is an unrealistic request. Now, if a dame comes to the table with a gun toting ex who's out to kill the new man in her life then yes...that would be construed as "drama". But if a guy isn't looking for a girl to have an opinion on things or doesn't stand up for herself in the relationship then that's just wrong.
I came from my mama and the Goldmans are all about the drama. In reality, I've mellowed over the years and compromise (especially in a boyfriend relationship) has become a pseudo middle name of mine but there are definitely things I won't bend on and if this is considered drama then I may be single for a long time. Ugh!
If tons of these guys need to write it in their dating profile headers or you read it in the very first few sentences of their profile then I guess there is a lady drama problem in America. Who knew? And will the Chase Community Giving program also include this non for profit?
DATE ME!
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
quisieras salir conmigo?
You know who contacts me a lot on the Internet? Foreigners. Not like dudes direct from India but fellas who have moved here and are working Americans and are now looking for love. You know what I like about the Foreign (Romania, Hungary, Ecuador, Iran) man? He's not age discriminatory. I get contacted by a lot of 28-36 year olds (American Americans who contact me are usually 50+ and are sporting a mustache). What's not good about this group? They have terrible grammar and spelling. I will only correspond with a working professional Foreign American but sometimes it's tough. And tougher? Phone conversations. Also, the ones I've come across are kind of egotistical and think you should talk and go out with them right away. They don't understand that you may have plans....or other dates and have to see them 1-2 days out. And a lot of them call you "Beautiful" and "Sweetie" without ever meeting/really knowing you. That bothers me. But again....I'm opening myself up to different people. I'm an equal opportunity dater.
Maybe one of them will be a good egg?
Bring on the Foreign Exchange Student......18 years and up.
DATE ME!
Maybe one of them will be a good egg?
Bring on the Foreign Exchange Student......18 years and up.
DATE ME!
Sunday, July 4, 2010
A Fourth Of July Treat
For the 4th of July I would like to leave you, my faithful readers with this email I received from an Internet dating site:
Very pretty pics.
Different looks but when you doll yourself up and those cheekbones come out, watch out!
Guys are special, aren't they?
Happy Independence day one and all!
DATE ME!
Very pretty pics.
Different looks but when you doll yourself up and those cheekbones come out, watch out!
Guys are special, aren't they?
Happy Independence day one and all!
DATE ME!
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Matchmaker Matchmaker Make Me A Match...
The question is: Do I invest in a Matchmaker to help me with my love search? I have reached out to one. She's an old broad. Been doing this type of biz for a long time. She's been on TV and has a good rep. But here's the rub (I hate that phrase FYI), she can't guarantee she's going to find me my mate. I can invest a lot of dinero and come out of it with nothing. She said she's another venue. She recommends that I continue to do the Internet and network thang. I see what she's saying. The other thing I found HILARIOUS was that she has confirmed what I've been telling my friends for awhile: I'm old. She confirmed it. Guys don't want 40. Guys 60 may want 40 but guys 40 don't want 40. THIS is what I've been trying to explain to everyone. It's not as easy for me as it was finding a dude 4-5 years ago. 40 is a curse. 41 is even tougher and so on and so on and so on.....
Now, I don't want to get too down about this whole process but it actually was a relief for someone to confirm what I've been saying and thinking all along. The older we get the harder it is to meet someone. The pool that I'm swimming in now is smaller than a kiddie pool....it's like a puddle. So I need to act and act fast if I'm ever really going to find someone.
The other thing she told me is to have a goal. I should have the goal of marriage. When I told her that wasn't my main thing she told me to change that thinking and have it be. She was really insistent. Definitely like a pushy Jewish mother/grandmother. Oh...and she thinks Patty Stanger (Millionaire Matchmaker) is annoying.
She has had some good success fixing people up. She told me that no matter what happens that once I meet her I'll be on her mind. Even if she can't find me the one this year she'll keep me in mind in case she comes across someone for me in the future. "Once a client always a client". Not sure I believe any of this or if I'll even do it but this much I know: I like investing in myself. I don't live an extravagant lifestyle (my biggest purchase is travel) and the number one goal of my life is to find a man that I click with and be happy so why wouldn't I try this? It's just one other way (an expensive way true...) to try and fine The One. And I only need One. Right now I have NOptions and that doesn't sit too well with me. So....I will think about it and let you know if I decide to make the plunge. Right now I'm leaning towards 'yes' but tomorrow it could be a different story. If there are any takers before I take the plunge let me know NOW. Ha!
DATE ME!
Now, I don't want to get too down about this whole process but it actually was a relief for someone to confirm what I've been saying and thinking all along. The older we get the harder it is to meet someone. The pool that I'm swimming in now is smaller than a kiddie pool....it's like a puddle. So I need to act and act fast if I'm ever really going to find someone.
The other thing she told me is to have a goal. I should have the goal of marriage. When I told her that wasn't my main thing she told me to change that thinking and have it be. She was really insistent. Definitely like a pushy Jewish mother/grandmother. Oh...and she thinks Patty Stanger (Millionaire Matchmaker) is annoying.
She has had some good success fixing people up. She told me that no matter what happens that once I meet her I'll be on her mind. Even if she can't find me the one this year she'll keep me in mind in case she comes across someone for me in the future. "Once a client always a client". Not sure I believe any of this or if I'll even do it but this much I know: I like investing in myself. I don't live an extravagant lifestyle (my biggest purchase is travel) and the number one goal of my life is to find a man that I click with and be happy so why wouldn't I try this? It's just one other way (an expensive way true...) to try and fine The One. And I only need One. Right now I have NOptions and that doesn't sit too well with me. So....I will think about it and let you know if I decide to make the plunge. Right now I'm leaning towards 'yes' but tomorrow it could be a different story. If there are any takers before I take the plunge let me know NOW. Ha!
DATE ME!
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