How can you take someone seriously when they write in their profile that (and it's literally in all caps) they're looking for an INTIMATE BOSOM FRIEND?
This is what's still out there, huh? Hiatus, I maintain.
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Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Bling Bling
Last night I met a fellow that my friend (God bless her!) fixed me up with. She met him at a last call at a bar in Wicker Park. Solid.
He really wasn't my physical type but I'm more open nowadays and of course agreed to meet him.
Unfortunately, the meet and greet was actually uncomfortable. He didn't really talk a lot or expound on any of his answers so I found myself trying to carry the convo much more than I had hoped. He also seemed really disinterested in what I was saying. He has more of a stoic personality. Seemed like a tough nut to crack. Didn't really give much to go on in terms of conversation. There were long pauses and finally I found myself saying, "So....what else?" (which I hate!) He also mentioned that he doesn't date a lot (works a ton!) and my questions to him were some that he never got before and had a very hard time answering as he doesn't think about those things. Huh.
Off the bat I knew it wasn't a match: He was wearing a fancy light colored silk wide pinstripe suit with a pocket square, (um....not me at all) cuff links and 2 GINORMOUS blinged out rings that he got from back in his college days. Of course I was fixated on the rings and wondered why one would choose to wear not just one but TWO upon meeting me. He told me they're conversation starters and that he gets in lots of places by wearing them. I knew he sensed that I wasn't into them (I have a hard time hiding any dismay) and I think he checked out right after meeting me. I thought his face was attractive but the rest of him (he told me he didn't have to work for years if need be - he's well off - again....nice, but not important to me) just wasn't.
I guess it was good for me to go out. Being on a Summer hiatus has proven good and bad for me. Good: I don't feel as stressed or disappointed because I feel like there's no one out there for me BAD: I feel that because I'm not really looking that I probably won't find anyone as they don't just fall in my lap.....men, that is.
I also kept picturing my former neighbor while talking to this guy. He was the spitting image of him. That was a prob.
Anyway.....I gave it a shot. A shot in the dark.
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He really wasn't my physical type but I'm more open nowadays and of course agreed to meet him.
Unfortunately, the meet and greet was actually uncomfortable. He didn't really talk a lot or expound on any of his answers so I found myself trying to carry the convo much more than I had hoped. He also seemed really disinterested in what I was saying. He has more of a stoic personality. Seemed like a tough nut to crack. Didn't really give much to go on in terms of conversation. There were long pauses and finally I found myself saying, "So....what else?" (which I hate!) He also mentioned that he doesn't date a lot (works a ton!) and my questions to him were some that he never got before and had a very hard time answering as he doesn't think about those things. Huh.
Off the bat I knew it wasn't a match: He was wearing a fancy light colored silk wide pinstripe suit with a pocket square, (um....not me at all) cuff links and 2 GINORMOUS blinged out rings that he got from back in his college days. Of course I was fixated on the rings and wondered why one would choose to wear not just one but TWO upon meeting me. He told me they're conversation starters and that he gets in lots of places by wearing them. I knew he sensed that I wasn't into them (I have a hard time hiding any dismay) and I think he checked out right after meeting me. I thought his face was attractive but the rest of him (he told me he didn't have to work for years if need be - he's well off - again....nice, but not important to me) just wasn't.
I guess it was good for me to go out. Being on a Summer hiatus has proven good and bad for me. Good: I don't feel as stressed or disappointed because I feel like there's no one out there for me BAD: I feel that because I'm not really looking that I probably won't find anyone as they don't just fall in my lap.....men, that is.
I also kept picturing my former neighbor while talking to this guy. He was the spitting image of him. That was a prob.
Anyway.....I gave it a shot. A shot in the dark.
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Thursday, July 21, 2011
Don't You Judge Me
So...last night I ran into a fella that I had "relations with" back in the day and as we were making small talk he asks, "So, you married?" I was thrown for a loop. I don't get asked this a lot and definitely not the 2nd or 3rd question of a convo. A wave
of: OhmygodnoI'mnotbutIshouldbemarriednoonehasaskedmewhydidyouaskmethisamIabigloser? came over me. I simply answered, "No. Are you married?" and he answered, "No. I thought I heard you were."
Why does this affect me so much? I honestly haven't stopped thinking about this all day. And it honestly makes me feel bad about myself. Now here's the thing: I don't care about marriage. I really don't. It's not the marriage thing. It's the not having anyone to share my life. But he doesn't know this. And he was asking just to make conversation but for some reason I thought I was being judged. I'm so hard on myself. I don't know why this is. I need to give myself a break.
On another note: a friend told me that a woman we were sitting with said I was attractive. Nice of her, of course but how come the dudes don't say this?????
I know. I'm just being a moron. I am Dori and I am a moron.
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of: OhmygodnoI'mnotbutIshouldbemarriednoonehasaskedmewhydidyouaskmethisamIabigloser? came over me. I simply answered, "No. Are you married?" and he answered, "No. I thought I heard you were."
Why does this affect me so much? I honestly haven't stopped thinking about this all day. And it honestly makes me feel bad about myself. Now here's the thing: I don't care about marriage. I really don't. It's not the marriage thing. It's the not having anyone to share my life. But he doesn't know this. And he was asking just to make conversation but for some reason I thought I was being judged. I'm so hard on myself. I don't know why this is. I need to give myself a break.
On another note: a friend told me that a woman we were sitting with said I was attractive. Nice of her, of course but how come the dudes don't say this?????
I know. I'm just being a moron. I am Dori and I am a moron.
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Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Get The Hint!
How is it that the 29 year old stalker DOES NOT GET THE HINT? He just struck AGAIN a few minutes ago. This kid must have some balls. BIG balls. Why? Well.....when he called me a month or so ago 3 times consecutively (of course, I did not pick up as it was after midnight and he's a nutjob) I was at my wits end. I called my sister to ask for her advice. My initial instinct was to tell him that if he doesn't leave me alone I'm going to contact the police. But this made me worried as I don't quite know what I'm dealing with (obviously since I never return his texts or voice mails and he STILL contacts me makes me think he's a lunatic) and don't want to be murdered, SO.....my sis suggested she'd get her friend (he's a total bad ass and gets a kick out of "scaring people"......but in the nicest way possible) to call him and *lightly* threaten him that if he didn't leave me alone that he'd *kindly* kick his ass. Well, obviously the guy is insane because he just text messaged me: "Hey its (not it's.....what a smarty) rick. Remember me?" Um.....how could I forget you, you PSYCHO????
So....here's my question: What the Hell do I do now? He's not threatening me or harming me in any way but it's SOOO annoying. I just want him to leave me alone. Do you think this will ever happen or is this guy going to contact me forever?! Ugh! I'm open to suggestions if anyone has any ideas.
I'm just so over it!
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So....here's my question: What the Hell do I do now? He's not threatening me or harming me in any way but it's SOOO annoying. I just want him to leave me alone. Do you think this will ever happen or is this guy going to contact me forever?! Ugh! I'm open to suggestions if anyone has any ideas.
I'm just so over it!
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Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Dr Neil Clark Who?
Not that I believe anything Dr. Neil Clark Warren says since I've spent a year on eHarmony and RARELY get matched with anyone of significance and then if I do I never hear from them (nor do they even check out my profile which makes me think they don't exist)........BUT I do think he has a valid point with marriage. I think a committed relationship is what we (meaning I) should strive for. Where I used to think marriage is the prize (back in my 20's and early 30's) I now absolutely think it's finding a compatible partner. Whether that leads to marriage is not the goal. The goal (for me) is finding a great guy to spend my time.
http://www.yourtango.com/201180435/eharmony-founder-says-dont-get-married
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http://www.yourtango.com/201180435/eharmony-founder-says-dont-get-married
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Friday, July 1, 2011
I'm So Ahead Of The Times
Thanks to my friend Brigid for sending this to me! Makes my dating hiatus decision seem validated.
http://www.yourtango.com/201179341/why-you-should-take-break-dating-summer
http://www.yourtango.com/201179341/why-you-should-take-break-dating-summer
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