Last night I had a conversation with a "dems and dose" guy. Or is it Dems and does? Dems and doze? Dems and doe's? Huh. Anyway....it was an accident. As we all know, the bar is lowered. But I don't think I realized where he lived and *maybe* disregarded some poorly worded text messages and lo and behold I'm talking to a guy who is extremely inarticulate....not only that but he lives really far from me (by Oak Lawn) and has no time to even date anyone. He co-owns a restaurant (has a HS degree - no college classes at all - was in construction for years) and he lived in Greece for a year (where his family is from) but after talking to him (you can tell a lot from a "phone interview") on the horn I couldn't wait to be done. Oh...he also hates the Bears and roots against most Chicago teams even though he's been living here for many years. He also didn't ask me any questions. I honestly couldn't wait to get off the phone with him. AND his name is Jimmy. Does that bring up a red flag for anyone else? Jimmy? Not Jim or James.....but JIMMY?
I have a couple dates lined up for this week and next (some I've been out with a couple times before) but as I've been saying: personality and intelligence (sarcastic wit) are key for me. Having a hard time finding this! There's one guy I've been out with a few times who's a looker but he's SO boring! No personality. But he's easy on the eyes.
Still out there looking for "the one". Is he out there? I'm honestly not sure he is. But I do know he's not one of youse guys. Use guys? You's guys? Eh. fugetaboutit!
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Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Anyone Have One Of These?
Did you ever have a guy email you off and on for about 8 or so months but won't call you? He won't return the calls I've placed to him (even though he told me to call him) and hasn't asked me out but keeps telling me we should meet and how he can't believe we haven't thus far? Is he married? Mentally derranged? What? He also found my Linkedin profile and was checking me out there. I never gave him my last name but coincidently enough he contacted me in 2008 while I was at my former company to discuss meeting me for a job opportunity, however he really didn't bring the kind of skills we needed for any of our positions. Could he be nuts.....slow.....I just don't know.....
The really weird thing is he follows up with me via text or email every couple of weeks when I've kind of given up on him to rekindle the dialogue. I'm just not going to answer him the next time he contacts me. If he wants a piece of this he's going to have to call and ask me out. Enough of these dumb games. Ovah it!
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The really weird thing is he follows up with me via text or email every couple of weeks when I've kind of given up on him to rekindle the dialogue. I'm just not going to answer him the next time he contacts me. If he wants a piece of this he's going to have to call and ask me out. Enough of these dumb games. Ovah it!
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Friday, March 18, 2011
A Non-Dating Entitlement Issue
One more thing that is bothering me....since I'm in "a mood".....
I have been getting quite a few emails from folks on Linkedin and Facebook telling me "I need to help them find a job." This is from people I know and don't know. Um.....are you paying me? That'd be a big NO. I love helping people. I do. And I always try to do it. But I've been getting really frustrated lately because I think people are way too entitled (and folks don't realize that my time is valuable and I have quite a few things going on). Don't expect my assistance. Ask for it. I don't *need* to help anyone. And I can't help everyone (though I'd like to try). For some reason I feel like everyone needs my help....needs me to run the show....wants me to take the lead in a relationship......but when is it my turn to be taken care of? When is someone going to help me?! I don't ask for it. Maybe that's my prob. I think people should ask if they can help me just like they ask what I can do for them. I always offer my assistance to people. Always. But I think a lot of folks just feel that entitlement like they're owed assistance without working for something or paying it forward. Well, to you I say "bullocks!"
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I have been getting quite a few emails from folks on Linkedin and Facebook telling me "I need to help them find a job." This is from people I know and don't know. Um.....are you paying me? That'd be a big NO. I love helping people. I do. And I always try to do it. But I've been getting really frustrated lately because I think people are way too entitled (and folks don't realize that my time is valuable and I have quite a few things going on). Don't expect my assistance. Ask for it. I don't *need* to help anyone. And I can't help everyone (though I'd like to try). For some reason I feel like everyone needs my help....needs me to run the show....wants me to take the lead in a relationship......but when is it my turn to be taken care of? When is someone going to help me?! I don't ask for it. Maybe that's my prob. I think people should ask if they can help me just like they ask what I can do for them. I always offer my assistance to people. Always. But I think a lot of folks just feel that entitlement like they're owed assistance without working for something or paying it forward. Well, to you I say "bullocks!"
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Impersonal Misters
I am currently carrying on text relationships with 5 guys. FIVE! I have gone out with a couple of them and some I haven't met as of yet. I don't consider any of these real relationships because none of them (well....not none but almost none) use the phone anymore. What happened to getting to know someone by a phone call and in person? Are dudes just lazy nowadays? Do they really have no desire to go out but rather *think* that they're actively pursuing someone by texting? I have no clue but I have to say it's really annoying. I am not a phone person. Not at all. But I'll tell you.....I appreciate it. I now really desire talking to someone as most of these guys don't want to use the phone. How do you get to know someone without talking to them and meeting them in person? I've been out with one of these dudes twice (no chemistry as I don't even KNOW him as all we do is text and meet for coffee (where he only drones on about himself and asks me no questions and/or follow-up questions about me) and text some more). He text messaged me today and in a roundabout way told me he wasn't doing anything tonight. When I told him I was "laying low" tonight he texts, "Oh...I should have texted you earlier to see what you were up to." TEXTED ME EARLIER?? WHY? TO NOT ASK ME OUT? TO NOT HAVE TO PICK UP THE PHONE AND GET TO KNOW ME? SO ANNOYING! Now, don't get me wrong...once I know someone and like them (or for family members and friends when you just want to ask a quick question or say "hello") texting is fine but when I've either never met you or gone out once?? PICK UP THE DARN PHONE AND GIVE ME A CALL! How is anyone building a relationship nowadays? I have no clue.
Another guy asked for my digits yesterday and then said, "Do you enjoy texting?" I didn't answer him (In my profile it plainly states I am not looking for an email and/or text buddy. If you're interested pick up the phone, let's have a quick chat and ASK A GIRL OUT). Today I received numerous texts from him with no mention of him giving me a call. Over it!
This dating world is in the crapper. In the crapper, I tell you. Hrumph!
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Another guy asked for my digits yesterday and then said, "Do you enjoy texting?" I didn't answer him (In my profile it plainly states I am not looking for an email and/or text buddy. If you're interested pick up the phone, let's have a quick chat and ASK A GIRL OUT). Today I received numerous texts from him with no mention of him giving me a call. Over it!
This dating world is in the crapper. In the crapper, I tell you. Hrumph!
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Friday, March 11, 2011
Maybe The Lunatic Is Right?
What is it with guys pursuing me....telling me they want to talk to me/meet me and then going MIA? Why even go after me? Why take the lead and say you want to get to know me and then never follow up? I know the Lunatic was/is a lunatic but in a way I understand that he's frustrated. I'm frustrated too. Or going out with a guy and then him sending text after text after the date but never picking up the phone to call or ask me out again. Why continue to text me? Why say you're interested if you're obviously not? Who cares? Just don't send me a text after we meet. Don't ask for my number if you never intend to call. I mean....come on. Maybe this is the way dudes are doing it in 2011? Is this the future of dating? Are guys just lazy? Are they all disinterested? If this is the future, I want no part of it. I'd rather go out with my friends. The prob is, I can't decipher who's a good guy and who's a chain yanker anymore. They all start out with potential and then after a couple of days they turn into total douche bags....or cheese dicks as the Lunatic had mentioned. It's very disheartening to say the least.
Just had to get this off my chest....my flat, flat chest.....
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Just had to get this off my chest....my flat, flat chest.....
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Wednesday, March 9, 2011
The Lunatic
I was supposed to have a date last night with a dude that just moved to Chicago a couple months ago. He sent me an email and I responded and he admitted to sending a lot of emails out and not getting a huge ROI. I guess this should have been my first clue that he was gonna be a problem.
He doesn't know the city well and made mention that he'd take a cab to me as long as it wasn't "too far". I told him I'd just take the bus to him as it'd be easier. He came back and sent numerous text messages clarifying that he felt bad and would come to me. I told him it was no big deal....three times. I had asked him to call me and he never did but I was gonna meet him anyway (for 1 hr as I made mention - a "meet and greet") as my bar is lowered and I gotta take what I can get.
Yesterday I was at work and before I left I checked the site to re-read his profile and another guy who I had talked to months ago sent me an email so we were corresponding. I logged off and got on the el. I checked my phone and saw he had sent me an email through the site (which I don't access through my phone) so I didn't think much of it. Thought it was a "See you later" email.
I get off the el and get in my car to pick up my dog at daycare and get home at 6:20pm or so. I notice that I have 3 consecutive text messages from him (sent at 5:24pm). Now, mind you, we had already confirmed our plans for last night. Basically they said "You're just like all the rest. You're probably talking to 40 guys (I WISH I was talking to FOUR guys let alone FORTY) I knew you wouldn't meet me." etc. WTF??!!! I was honestly floored. I sent him a text saying I was very confused and I thought we were all set for 7:30pm and I'm just reading these texts now as I didn't have my phone on for awhile and blah, blah, blah.....Well, long story short, he felt like an ass and said he was sorry. I told him I was sorry as well and after reading his texts decided not to meet him. He said he understood.
Then today I listened to a vm message he must have sent yesterday...not sure of the time...basically telling me that I'm a horrible person and that I probably wasn't going to meet him anyway (that I set it up but was going to bail...if he only knew) and that I probably wouldn't have liked him anyway.
THEN I see he has updated his profile today with these words of wisdom. I honestly think he could be a murderer. He's for sure VERY angry at the ladies and I'm lucky I never met him:
None of this matters because none of you ladies will go any farther than sifting thru your scores of messages from cheese-dick, douche bag guys without shirts; standing in front of the mirror. I know it pumps up your ego's...you probably desperately need it since you're coming off a recently shattered relationship. Im coming off one too, but I don't do any of that shit. Some normal time with a woman doing some normal, fun activities is fine with me. I'd settle for 1 woman at a time too. I don't feel the need to juggle several women at once, lying and saying I can't go out this night or that night so I can squeeze in other dates!
Pisses me off when you all think I'm dumb enough to believe that shit. You tell me you have to change our date to another night on the phone and then I see that your online chatting with someone else. Then I send you a P.O.F. message to you while you're online chatting w/ someone else...you stop chatting, never answer my message and quickly log off.
That's friggin' lame. If you meet someone on here that you're interested in, then you shouldn't be screwing around making plans with other people until you decide wether you really are interested or not. Until then, cut the crap! Just cuz you get 50 messages a day from cheese-dick guys that are juggling as many women as they can anyway...you can't decide who you like better, so you can't help but chat w/ the ***holes, b/c you're ego is so "thrilled" with all the messages you're getting.
You're all doing it. Every woman I've met on here was doing it. I could tell. I'm not retarded. SO F.U., Show me that you have a little integrity and that you look good enough for a guy at my "level". I know Im not physically perfect, or even close to it. However, I know I'm a fairly decent looking guy, so I'm not going to date a woman who's not a fairly decent looking girl. Plus she should have the moral standards I just described.
I KNOW I'm a great catch. I'm smart. Have a good career. Great future. You can actually talk to me and I'll actually talk back. I'm certainly not vain...yet moderately refined and polite. There's no reason why I'd have to ask out over 100 women before I get a yes...Which is the case. I'd love for one of you to tell me why I'm not (outside of the fact that I'm writing negative in my my profile.).
Get your heads outta yer asses and realize that some perfect 10 guy with intelligence, humor and even money isn't gonna appear in your inbox! A decent 7 guy with the above qualities most likely already HAS appeared in the inbox of every woman that is a 7 or better in the greater Chicago, Buffalo, NY and Rochester, NY areas over the last year. However you all wouldn't date me...prob. cuz you're waiting for someone out of your league or b/c ur ego is inflated etc.
None of what Im writing here even matters cuz none of you gals will lift a finger to do a search and write a guy. Yet, chances are, I probably wouldn't want to be w/ a person like you anyway
He's a catch, right? RIGHT!
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He doesn't know the city well and made mention that he'd take a cab to me as long as it wasn't "too far". I told him I'd just take the bus to him as it'd be easier. He came back and sent numerous text messages clarifying that he felt bad and would come to me. I told him it was no big deal....three times. I had asked him to call me and he never did but I was gonna meet him anyway (for 1 hr as I made mention - a "meet and greet") as my bar is lowered and I gotta take what I can get.
Yesterday I was at work and before I left I checked the site to re-read his profile and another guy who I had talked to months ago sent me an email so we were corresponding. I logged off and got on the el. I checked my phone and saw he had sent me an email through the site (which I don't access through my phone) so I didn't think much of it. Thought it was a "See you later" email.
I get off the el and get in my car to pick up my dog at daycare and get home at 6:20pm or so. I notice that I have 3 consecutive text messages from him (sent at 5:24pm). Now, mind you, we had already confirmed our plans for last night. Basically they said "You're just like all the rest. You're probably talking to 40 guys (I WISH I was talking to FOUR guys let alone FORTY) I knew you wouldn't meet me." etc. WTF??!!! I was honestly floored. I sent him a text saying I was very confused and I thought we were all set for 7:30pm and I'm just reading these texts now as I didn't have my phone on for awhile and blah, blah, blah.....Well, long story short, he felt like an ass and said he was sorry. I told him I was sorry as well and after reading his texts decided not to meet him. He said he understood.
Then today I listened to a vm message he must have sent yesterday...not sure of the time...basically telling me that I'm a horrible person and that I probably wasn't going to meet him anyway (that I set it up but was going to bail...if he only knew) and that I probably wouldn't have liked him anyway.
THEN I see he has updated his profile today with these words of wisdom. I honestly think he could be a murderer. He's for sure VERY angry at the ladies and I'm lucky I never met him:
None of this matters because none of you ladies will go any farther than sifting thru your scores of messages from cheese-dick, douche bag guys without shirts; standing in front of the mirror. I know it pumps up your ego's...you probably desperately need it since you're coming off a recently shattered relationship. Im coming off one too, but I don't do any of that shit. Some normal time with a woman doing some normal, fun activities is fine with me. I'd settle for 1 woman at a time too. I don't feel the need to juggle several women at once, lying and saying I can't go out this night or that night so I can squeeze in other dates!
Pisses me off when you all think I'm dumb enough to believe that shit. You tell me you have to change our date to another night on the phone and then I see that your online chatting with someone else. Then I send you a P.O.F. message to you while you're online chatting w/ someone else...you stop chatting, never answer my message and quickly log off.
That's friggin' lame. If you meet someone on here that you're interested in, then you shouldn't be screwing around making plans with other people until you decide wether you really are interested or not. Until then, cut the crap! Just cuz you get 50 messages a day from cheese-dick guys that are juggling as many women as they can anyway...you can't decide who you like better, so you can't help but chat w/ the ***holes, b/c you're ego is so "thrilled" with all the messages you're getting.
You're all doing it. Every woman I've met on here was doing it. I could tell. I'm not retarded. SO F.U., Show me that you have a little integrity and that you look good enough for a guy at my "level". I know Im not physically perfect, or even close to it. However, I know I'm a fairly decent looking guy, so I'm not going to date a woman who's not a fairly decent looking girl. Plus she should have the moral standards I just described.
I KNOW I'm a great catch. I'm smart. Have a good career. Great future. You can actually talk to me and I'll actually talk back. I'm certainly not vain...yet moderately refined and polite. There's no reason why I'd have to ask out over 100 women before I get a yes...Which is the case. I'd love for one of you to tell me why I'm not (outside of the fact that I'm writing negative in my my profile.).
Get your heads outta yer asses and realize that some perfect 10 guy with intelligence, humor and even money isn't gonna appear in your inbox! A decent 7 guy with the above qualities most likely already HAS appeared in the inbox of every woman that is a 7 or better in the greater Chicago, Buffalo, NY and Rochester, NY areas over the last year. However you all wouldn't date me...prob. cuz you're waiting for someone out of your league or b/c ur ego is inflated etc.
None of what Im writing here even matters cuz none of you gals will lift a finger to do a search and write a guy. Yet, chances are, I probably wouldn't want to be w/ a person like you anyway
He's a catch, right? RIGHT!
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Monday, March 7, 2011
Chesty
I am not a fan of the Online Dating IM feature. Rarely do I IM anyone.
Tonight I got this very special IM:
Chi60613: Hi H
Chi60613: Hi Hun (HUN?! Attila the Hun???)
**SILENCE......did not respond - had no pic**
Chi60613: Never mind. You're flat chested anyway.
WHAT????? If he only knew! I've got a major rack. Totally made me laugh so I had to share.
It's tough out there. Please wear protective gloves.
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Tonight I got this very special IM:
Chi60613: Hi H
Chi60613: Hi Hun (HUN?! Attila the Hun???)
**SILENCE......did not respond - had no pic**
Chi60613: Never mind. You're flat chested anyway.
WHAT????? If he only knew! I've got a major rack. Totally made me laugh so I had to share.
It's tough out there. Please wear protective gloves.
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Saturday, March 5, 2011
I'm Lucky
.....I'm lucky because I was "favorited" by a 51 yr old Anglican (Anglican????) with the profile name of WienerProf. So....he's a wiener professor....specializing in hot dogs or penises? Either way, WHY ARE THESE THE GUYS THAT ARE INTERESTED IN ME? Am I giving off a wiener prof vibe in my profile? Do my pictures say WIENER? I'm very perplexed.
I will ponder this all day and if I come across any answers I will let you know.
Oh....and in his profile there is no mention to his odd name. I guess some girls are attracted to and by the wiener.
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I will ponder this all day and if I come across any answers I will let you know.
Oh....and in his profile there is no mention to his odd name. I guess some girls are attracted to and by the wiener.
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Wednesday, March 2, 2011
The Old Guy
Well, it happened. Tonight I met a man that was old.....er....and like I imagined, I was not into it. As soon as he walked in I could only think, "I am about to have coffee with my father. Oh Lord help me."
He was nice enough....interesting....but there was just zero attraction/chemistry on my end. I'm not meant to be with someone 8-10 yrs older than me. I'm just not. I know I only tried it once but I think it was all I needed to confirm my theory. Now, check in with me in another 5 yrs and I may be singing a different tune but for this stage in my life I'm sticking with what I like and that's guys that don't have to *act* young and cool because they are young and cool.
Also, he kept leaning into me like he wanted to tell me secrets and that just made me retract and lean back farther. I didn't need to know his secrets.
Also Also, his hair may or may not have been a toupee but if it wasn't it should have been because no man should be rocking that mop top. In addition, there was definitely a dye job going on.
And thus begins my slow demise.......
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He was nice enough....interesting....but there was just zero attraction/chemistry on my end. I'm not meant to be with someone 8-10 yrs older than me. I'm just not. I know I only tried it once but I think it was all I needed to confirm my theory. Now, check in with me in another 5 yrs and I may be singing a different tune but for this stage in my life I'm sticking with what I like and that's guys that don't have to *act* young and cool because they are young and cool.
Also, he kept leaning into me like he wanted to tell me secrets and that just made me retract and lean back farther. I didn't need to know his secrets.
Also Also, his hair may or may not have been a toupee but if it wasn't it should have been because no man should be rocking that mop top. In addition, there was definitely a dye job going on.
And thus begins my slow demise.......
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Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Getting My Chain Yanked
So....the MIA dude emails me at 11am today and apologizes as his week has been crazy but he's free to go out tonight. Tonight?! This is after I told him twice that I am not available tonight. Oh...and he started off the email "Hi Sweetie" (I envisioned Kim from the Real Housewives of Atlanta greeting me as "Sweetie!").
Chain Yanker!
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Chain Yanker!
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